Loads of volumes have been written, are being written and will be written about love. The other side of the coin - "not-love" - is awkwardly passed over in silence. And it is often not noticed or confused with its sister without "not-". Experienced psychologist Anna Kiryanova accurately described how to distinguish love from not-love:
Not-love is when you can't interfere. Talk, laugh or climb with hugs. You can't talk about your experiences - this is nonsense, not experiences. You can't ask for something - you need to understand that now is a difficult situation. And in general, why do you need this?
You can't count on help, adults must cope on their own. Even if they are five years old. This is already a respectable age. And if thirty-five - this is generally old age. And there is no need to dress up like that at such a venerable age.
Not-love is when they don't scold you much, but they don't praise you either. They don't notice. When it's inconvenient to eat in front of a loved one, he or she may say that you eat too much. And the person will eat the food you've prepared and say nothing. And he or she won't notice your efforts when you tidy up and put some flowers in a vase.
Dislike is when nothing is allowed. When you irritate, interfere, butt in, talk nonsense, get on their nerves, sit quietly in the corner and wait for them to take you for a walk. And don't whine, don't whine, don't cry - sit quietly and wait. When they don't stand up for you and say: "It's your own fault!" - that's dislike.
When they don't give you anything - that's dislike. When they feel sorry to spend money on you - that's dislike. That's not hate. Sometimes it's even worse, because they hate you for something, out of envy, for example. And you can leave or hit back. But they don't love - just like that. Although they say: "Yes, I love you, just leave me alone, you're at it again!" This is what it is - dislike. And people die from it. Especially old people, children and dogs. And adults who are defenseless and sensitive.
Dislike makes a person timid, awkward, constrained and ugly; he is afraid to spoil everything, to interfere, to irritate... There is nothing to be done about it; if you have the strength - you should leave even with a bundle on a stick. Or at least clearly understand - this is dislike. Not love.
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