1. For saying "no"
You have the right to say no to almost any request, suggestion, or demand. And if the task is not part of your job description or you have not made any promises to the person in advance, then you should not apologize for saying "no" or feel guilty.
2. For not living up to someone's expectations
This point is somewhat similar to the first: if you have not promised anything to people, you should not apologize for destroying their illusions. Whether it is parents who believe that you are obligated to live according to the plan they have drawn up, a partner who wants to fit you into the framework of the ideal wife or husband, or a friend who has decided that you will always share all of their interests and views.
3. For people doing their job
Once in a nail salon, I heard a client, sitting down at the table with the master, start making excuses: “Sorry, I haven’t done anything to my nails for a long time, my cuticles have grown too much.” But in such situations, there is simply no need to apologize. The person is providing a service that you paid for, and not doing you a favor. It is unlikely that you will apologize to a surgeon because your appendix is inflamed, or apologize to a tutor because you do not know his subject.
4. For wanting to be alone
Solitude helps to put your thoughts and feelings in order. Doctors and psychologists agree that every person needs to spend time alone from time to time. Therefore, your refusal to go to a noisy party or the desire to walk in the park alone is not a reason to feel guilty and ask forgiveness from friends or family.
5. For other people's behavior
You are only responsible for your own actions, and the behavior of other adults and capable people does not depend on you in any way. So if your friend, relative, or even an adult child does something wrong - lets someone down, deceives, offends, is rude, this person must ask for forgiveness for what happened themselves.
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